Wednesday, August 02, 2006

I love this man... If only everybody thought this way!

Ladies are gonna love Indian men for thinking this way!!! Really worth the read...

It seems that an article was written to a well-founded magazine, by an English woman who requested a response from Indian men. She got what she asked for (and more)!!!

This letter was written in response to an article:

Dear Editor:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Indian male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to an Indian male, good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Indian female's attitudes about our relationship.

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Indian women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Indian men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world If Indian women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.

I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public.

I would like to hear from some Indian men about why we white women are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, BillyBlanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly.

Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Indian men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl,
Somewhere in VA.


The Response:

Dear Editor:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Indian man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Non-White men.

I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Indian men date white women.

Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Indian men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Indian girls in my neighborhood were raised traditionally.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of Indian males date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Indian men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Indian women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Indian men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Indian men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women.

I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Indian men date white women. Non-Whites like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestn! ut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Non-White women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Non-White women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want the 'Disgusted White Girl' to be misinformed.

Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Non-White Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Non-White women who were breastfeeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the Non-White woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.

Indian women were born with two strikes against them: being Non-White and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!

It is because of the Indian women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Indian Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colours and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Indian women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with Indian women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin. If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the Non-White woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understand my struggles. I am looking for a sou l mate and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.


Indian Royalty.


pavan kumar said...

hehe nice blow! which mag was it?

*patiently waiting for some desi female to reciprocate.. I mean uplift the poor image of desi males*

shark said...

Not sure of the magazine. Got this as a forward.

By the way, you have a long wait ahead of you da....:P

pavan kumar said...

oh yeah.. no hurries. 25 is too soon to focus on such issues :)

Girl Interrupted said...

i've read this before....:)

Hardu said...

Shark: What happened to Pavan's application which he sent to mini-shark? ;)

pavan kumar said...

:D thanks Hardu for reminding.. now get your shoes and run before Shark eats you alive.. :P

shark said...

@pavan: on second thoughts, I think the image of desi males is quite high.. I mean, the number of desi females marrying videsi males are very less right?
And hello! your value is super duper high .. I know this.. Gulti + America = MORE dowry + MORE beautiful girl...;-)) That's what some of my friends keep telling..:)

@GI : It's worth reading again...:) Kind of boosts your morale right?

@hardu: looks like Mr.Pavan found somebody else...;-) 'coz the .pavan format resume which he had promised, is still on it's way....:P

pavan kumar said...

not sure abt the girl, but dowry for TelBrams is non-existant :) and as regards to my resume.. am still polishing with cherry blossom (my current love is my thesis) :D so would you give a reco? :P

Anonymous said...


you got conned, maybe, from what appears to be an urban legend, maybe?

- s.b.

mysorean said...

Hahaha.. Good one!

pavan kumar said...

[s.b.] true.. and I was all accolades for that guy :D good find btw

but sincerely, isnt stereotyping a sin? especially when you (in generic sense) happen to be out of the sample under investigation/focus? In today's global village, traits are not restricted to the group one is from, but things are boiling down to individuality and personality than "mob following". hmmn just ignore my 'unproductive Friday' rant :)

shark said...

@s.b: Thanks for the link!

@pavan: Most of the time we ARE all judged by the group which we belong to! It's human tendency!

And by the way, friday's are supposed to be the most productive day of the week... how come it's reverse for you?

veena shivanna said...

That was very good. For a moment, kind of elated ..
The Editor guy just roars alva.,My wishes to his search of his soul mate, Nice ideas though