Relationships

When do we consider that we are successful in a specific relationship? Be it Father, Mother, Siblings or Spouse....?

• There cannot be any relationship without a compromise. But when do we know that we are compromising too much? Where do you draw the line?
• When do you know that the fights are too much? Is there a yard stick? 2 fights in a week is ok or not ok?
• How will you know if YOU are doing justice to a relationship?
• On the other hand how do you make the other person know that you are doing the best you can and they need to appreciate the effort even if the results are not favorable.
• How will you stop being taken for granted?

If the strain in the relationship is obvious, like a dowry-harassment or a property fight or physical violence, the success of such relationships can be evaluated quite easily. But when things are subtle, when the results are not so obvious... how do you gauge?

Its new

Yea. Its a brand new year. Last year was a breeze... Don't we say that every year though :)?

Let me start this year with some prayers

• Give me more strength to balance home, work, college and my Son! Some days I feel as if I just should not get up from the bed! Give me more :)
• Give me more patience. There are times when my patience is tested to the maximum extent. though by nature I do not burst out openly, it drains me from inside. I need to let go.
• Help me accept that there will always be people who are not satisfied with you, no matter how much effort you put in to please them. Forget them. Move on.

- Life is like a white board. YOU decide how its going to be.

HAPPY NEW YEAR :)!

Rising all over again

I know its been long and I won't bother about the details. I just did not post. Its as simple as that.

Initially I did not actually miss blogging. Infact it was peaceful for somedays. Not waiting for a comment for my post, not being curious about what other person might have posted.... no such thoughts running through my mind and it was all cool...

Until one day I realized blogging can be your best friend. You can dump ANY of your thoughts here without having to worry about how the other person might feel.

And so I am back. Not in the best of my moods today so won't say much. But will surely be more regular from now on :)

Pheromones

I didn't even remember this word. A chance encounter triggered memories.

The first time I heard this word was when I was listening to a lecture in my college where the 'guest lecturer' was explaining how to control 'female pests' in tea/coffee plantation!

His idea was simple. Create synthetic pheromones thingy. Female pests will be attracted. Grab them, kill them.

I said wow! Then asked him "What about male pests?". For that he said, "What can males alone do if we kill all the females?". Hooofff! These research fellas really know it all!

Thank You

Sometimes people touch your heart very unexpectedly. Here is a note of thanks to all those people whom I don’t know at all. But they surely make this world a better place to live.

1. N Krishnan in Madurai. In these days when people refuse to even look after their own parents, here is a guy who feeds mentally ill people on the streets of Madurai and that too three times a day! How can you ever say thanks to this guy? No amount of praise is enough. All I could do was shed those tears of joy. As the elders say, its because of such people that we have rain and harvest still in this world!
2. All those municipal corporation workers who clean/repair our drains. It’s a thankless job to say the least. Not to mention what meager salaries they get for doing such a job. Just imagine how our homes would be without them… so a BIG thank you to all of them for keeping our homes mess free in an indirect way :-)
3. Traffic policemen: We work in air conditioned offices… if not that atleast an office with a fan, sitting at one place and yet crib about job non-satisfaction, lesser amenities and what not… Just imagine the conditions which these guys work day in and day out. Dust all around, people not heeding to their instructions.. how frustrating can life be? A little note of thanks to all the traffic policemen!
4. Construction Workers: Most of the big time builders boast of big and successful projects. But ultimately each brick is laid by an anonymous construction worker. Here is a note of thanks to all those who have toiled in rain and shine for making our lives comfortable.
5. Scientists: Imagine how our world would be without those lives saving inventions. Be it in medical field or even home appliances field for that matter… our lives are much more comfortable, safer and luxurious because of these inventions. A BIG thanks to one and all who made this possible.

Well, the list can go on and on, so let me put a stop to it and say a general thanks to all of those people who have made this world a better place to live!

P.S: There is no point in telling where I was all these days. Let me put it straight.. I was plain lazy! So lets get to the posts right away.

My Favorite Quotes

• Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - chocolate in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'WOO HOO, What a Ride' – Anon
• "Both tears and sweat are salty, but they render a different result. Tears will get you sympathy; sweat will get you change." - Jesse Jackson
• Love: It is a short word, easy to spell, difficult to define, impossible to live without – Anon
• Success is something when we get what we want and happiness lies in wanting what we get – Anon
• Life is like driving a car at night. You can only see as far as the headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way. – Anon
• If at first you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried. – Anon
• A conclusion is a place where you got tired of thinking. – Anon
• Love may be blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener. – Anon
• Success always occurs in private and failure in full view. – Anon
• 42.7% of all statistics are made up on the spot. – Anon
• If you think nobody cares about you, try missing a couple of payments. – Anon
• There are some things which money can’t buy.. for everything else there is MasterCard!

New Blog and other things.

Well, I know it’s been some time and most of you have been waiting for some updates about my son, but I have to confess I have become a lazy bum!
It would be wrong if I say I didn’t get time because of my son … (touch wood) he has been a very good boy till now. He doesn’t get cranky at all, and sleeps well during the night which is a blessing I am sure many mothers would agree. I have just been plain lazy. Being in mom’s house doesn’t help either. You get to order around and get pampered all at the same time ;-)
Now that two months are over since my son was born I have decided to wake up finally. Have to get back to not-being-lazy mode soon.

I have decided to start a separate blog to write about my son. Want to keep this one general. So here it is. It’s not too difficult to guess that updates on the other blog will be more than here ;-) but still I would want to keep this one to write about my general feelings and comments on happenings around me.

I have been reading reports of racism in Australia. I do agree that those have to be condemned and the Aussie police have to really wake up and take appropriate measures. But I cant stop myself but ask the question.. we raise all hue and cry when “others” (read foreigners) discriminate us, but don’t we do the same? We may not attack and kill but I am sure our “treatment” is no less traumatic. How many tourists have had a “safe” and “deceit-less” trip to India? Mysore boasts of quite a few foreign students. Palestinians, Africans, Chinese etc.., Ask them how many times they have been teased in public not only in their college campus but in general on road, in busses etc.
How can we ever forget our “casteism”? Isn’t it racism with a different name? Forget about inter-caste marriages, that’s a different topic altogether. But let us just look at our daily lives. How many of us allow maids to come inside the kitchen? How many of us readily eat in our neighbor’s house if they are of a different caste? I can go on and on... but I am sure you get the point. So before pointing fingers at other countries, let us first look at ourselves. First clean your house before dusting your neighbor’s house! I am sure there is no less “groupism/favoritism/casteism” in our own universities. Have we even given a thought to it? I am sure we would be the biggest market for fairness creams. What with our obsession to be fair. How many dark girls get good grooms easily? I think we better clean our house first before trying to clean our neighbor’s house! (I have to mention a kannada saying here “Avara yelili heggaNa biddidru pakkada yele noNa Odisdranthe!”).

I must also mention about the political scenario we have right now. I was at a loss for words when Mr.Karunanidhi was so bent upon getting cabinet births for all his family members! It was a mockery of democracy to say the least. I wonder when people of TN will ever realize that this man is in the game only for personal reasons. For that matter I wonder who is clean after all. I am sure we won’t even get enough candidates to count in our fingers! But at the same time, I am optimistic that things are going to change. I can see the change in attitude for most of the people from “I don’t care” to “I can do something for a start.. i.e vote”. Also I can see that there are more young faces (though it does not rule out corruption) who I hope will bring about some change.

On a totally different note, I wonder when people will ever be “satisfied”. I am sometimes at loss for words or expression when people expect things which are totally uncalled for. Suppose A was never talking with B, the moment A talks to B, B “expects” A to talk nicely. A talks nicely, then the expectation is that A tells everything to B and so on... it’s a never ending expectation-cycle if I can call it that! Why can’t B be satisfied that A is on talking terms? The situation gets more complex when there is C and D to mix up the mind of B! Aaaarrrggghhhh!!!

Now, to end the post on a bright note… I am finally slowly getting back to shape, after being shapeless for almost a year ;-)! Though this does not mean I am thin even in a remote way... but atleast I am getting back to my normal (read original) weight :-)